11 Quotes on Co-Parenting

You can be right or you can be happy

Co-operative parenting is about working together to resolve issues for long term support of the child(ren) not proving who is right or wrong in the moment.

Create a Parenting Plan

Take the time or get assistance to develop a Parenting-Plan Detailed plans help to produce stability. A good plan cutline how you want to raise the kids and handle issues such as scheduling rules, activities, pick-ups, haircuts, tattoos, etc. You can’t be flexible if have nothing to bend.

What’s best is not Always Equal

Don’t get caught up in 50/50. Fair is Equal tit of tat. The impacts of daily life, activities, schedule, work, school are near impossible to split 50/50.  Supportive co-parents recognize that there are compromises to be made, in supporting what’s best for the kids.

You are not a couple _ but your still parents

You may be separated but_ you are still connected through shared parenting responsibilities. Co-operative parenting is about moving on with your personal lives with health boundaries so you can raise the best kids on the block.

That’s not your ex! That’s your kid’s parent.

Don’t bash your ex in front of the kids. Keep the conflict, frustration and legal issues away from the kids. Raising well-adjusted kids is easier if you don’t feed into loyalty conflict.

Respectful and Professional

Adopt a business-like attitude. Treating your co-parent as a colleague helps to reduce emotional tension. Write short, clear, and concise emails. Ask yourself How would I respond to a co-worker?

Set up a Communication System

Develop a system that works for your parent stye. Some co-parents are flexible and loose others enjoy structured methods and schedules. Either way develop and agree to maintain effective communication.

Schedule Co-Parent Meeting

Staying in the loop reduces surprises and heads off problems before they get out of hand. Makes some time each month to have a short Co-parenting Meeting to brief each other up to spend and plan ahead.

Use technology

Set up a shared email, cloud drive, shared calendar to share pics, schedules and important details. There are also several paid services to keep even the highest conflict co-parents on track.

Boundaries Between Homes

You and your co-parent don’t have to agree on every minor household rule. Don’t wage war over different values on household chores – it’s fine that they don’t make the bed over there, focus on working out agreements on important values (religion, health, education, etc.)

Give the Kids Some Control

Check in with the kids and empower them to take control over their lives between homes – encourage them to be agents of their needs and wants between homes.